Notes from the love doctor

I used to think that relationships were a lot of work. I had always watched friends and loved ones go through so much turmoil that I was under the impression it was normal. Then I found someone who completely changed my point of view. I have learned over the past year that if you're with the right person it isn't hard at all. That isn't to say you will never argue or go through tough times in your life together, you most definitely will. The key here is that the right person will help you grow and will be happy to work through any issues that may arise. In a relationship, like many other things, there has to be a balance. The two of you have to work as a team. Your significant other is there to also be your best friend and supporter, not just a lover. One of the most important things to remember is to be patient and understanding. If you can take the time to understand a situation first, you're more likely to find a solution that fits both of your needs. It's so easy to blow up at someone, but most times you'll find yourself regretting it or losing that person. Listen to them whine about their day, don't you expect them to listen to you? Make sure you talk about things, you should be able to talk about everything with your partner. If you find yourself always bouncing from one unhealthy relationship to another, take some time to be alone. Don't date anyone until you know yourself and love who you are. If you have no love for yourself, how can anyone else? You will see that when you are in a good place with yourself that you will attract a different breed of people. You don't  need to search for someone either. If you have yourself  with the right people, love will find you. More  importantly, the right love.