choose to understand, not judge

When somone gets hurt there are a few typical ways they will react. They may impulively lash out whether that be with words or fists. On the other hand they may walk away from the situation, which can be broken down further. If the victim chooses to walk away from the situation they will likely either take a deep breath and forget all about it or they'll find a quiet place to sulk (which will likely result in them holding these feelings in for a while). However the situation is adressed it is always important to understand both parties. As the saying goes, there are two sides to every story. Many people will roll their eyes at this statement because they believe in acting on impulse. They believe you should automatically punish a person without hearing what they have to say. In my opinion, this is wrong. Now that's not to say I don't believe in punishment because I do. In fact I firmly believe that the right punishment helps us grow and either teaches you right from wrong or reinforces it. However I think it is best in any situation to reflect on the situation and analyze it in order to find the best way to solve the issue. As hard as it may be, if someone hurts you I believe you should try to understand them rather than just writing them off. We're all familiar with the argument that most bullies have or have had a bad home life. It is those few that seemingly have no reason for their actions that everyone seems to focus on; and that simply isn't fair. I've been hurt many times in my life and I was often the one who chose solitude and bottled up my feelings. Those habits are not healthy, which is why I've been teaching myself to handle these situations better. In the event someone hurts me one of my first thoughts is "Why?". I don't want someone to tell me the generic answers for this question such as: 'they just like hurting people' because I don't think anyone truly likes hurting people. This world makes two kinds of people: the humble and the bitter. I think you will find there are more bitter people than humble. I know we all have many reasons to be bitter, but what we often fail to realize is that we have even more reasons to be greatful. I encourage you to take some time to just sit outside and look around. Take a deep breath with your eyes closed and open them slowly. If your mind is clear I think you will see all that surrounds you; I think you will realize just how beautiful and wonderful it is. Only a fool would say we live in a perfect world, for there is much pain and suffering. It is more foolish however, to say there is no good left in the world. The humble may be few and far between but they are mighty. There is much power in pure goodness. It will likely never be a perfect world, but why not try?